Fetish Friday

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Abandonment Fetish, Neglect Fantasy & Ignore Line Phone Sex

By Cara Sutra: An incredibly popular fetish is the abandonment fetish, which links into neglect fantasy and ignore line phone sex. From my Domme point of view I associate these with the FemDom side of BDSM, however it's not limited to FemDom.

Living With A Vanilla Partner When You’re Kinky | BDSM Advice

By Cara Sutra: Is this you? Are you living with a vanilla partner when you're kinky? Perhaps you need some element of BDSM to get your kicks in your sex life. If so, living with someone for whom these activities are distasteful or simply don’t feature can be hard work, frustrating and upsetting. For everyone involved.

Don’t Non-Consensually Prise My Rape Fantasy From My Kink Dependent Mind

Cara Sutra: It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.

Loving Bondage Doesn’t Make Me Any Less Of A Dominant Woman

By Cara Sutra: I’m quite proud, actually; proud that I’m not allowing myself to be restricted by a label. I love the irony in that statement. Loving bondage really doesn't make me any less of a dominant woman. Dommes can love being tied up too.

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Sex Toys And Fetish Gear

By Cara Sutra: There’s quite a bit of confusion even in seasoned sex toys circles about what certain terms refer to regarding bondage sex toys and fetish gear. For this week’s Fetish Friday, I want to help clear up some of that confusion - with this handy guide.

Forced Orgasms: Orgasmic Consensual Non-Consent

By Cara Sutra: Forced orgasms have been a source of curiosity to me for quite some time. It’s unusual for me to find intrigue through BDSM-based orgasms, as I have a penchant for male chastity as you may have noticed from my regular kinky writings on the subject.

Safewords: Is Safing Out Ever Necessary In BDSM?

By Cara Sutra: There’s a worrying trend in BDSM to spurn the use of safewords. For me, safewords are not an optional extra, they are a requirement for ‘play’. I use the term play not to lessen the importance of kinky activities, but rather as an umbrella term for anything that could be described as being part of BDSM.

Dolcett Girls And The Vorarephilia / Vore Fetish

By Cara Sutra: Now here's an entirely new spin on the phrase “eating out”! Perhaps you’ve heard of vore but you’re not sure what it is. Vorarephelia is a fetish, and those who find themselves aroused by the idea of eating, or being eaten by, a person. Not in the literal eating of people, which is cannibalism. Dolcett Girls falls under the vore fetish category.

Kinky Valentine’s Day Ideas: The Alternative Romance Of BDSM

By Cara Sutra: Hearts, flowers, wine, chocolates, greeting cards… all this and more equates to the very best in romance that you can give your partner on Valentine’s Day, to prove your depth of feeling for them. So says commercialism, anyway.

I’m A Secret Submissive | Why Female Submission Is A Private Kink For Me

By Cara Sutra: For me, female submission is an entirely sexual act, not a lifestyle choice or a facet of my personality. I submit to my partner for my pleasure, as well as for his. The act of him taking pleasure in my sexual submission or bedroom roleplay keys into an underlying vanity.

Shouty Dominants: Kinky or Abusive?

By Cara Sutra: Are shouty Dominants kinky or abusive? When you think of shouting in a the usual sense, you will probably experience certain visualisations. A couple mid-row. A parent chastising a child. Maybe you recall a personal, perhaps painful, memory.

Is Your Kink Identity Written In Your DNA?

By Cara Sutra: Can you inherit a kinky orientation? Is your kink identity written in your DNA? I really believe it is. I don't think you choose to be Dominant, submissive, or switch. Those labels that I'd call your kink identity.