Here you can find articles and blog posts which Cara Sutra has been commissioned to write here at the UK’s best sexuality magazine.
“If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I’m talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us.”
– The best sex toys to use for amazing lesbian sex
“I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages.”
– Busting popular myths about ceramic, metal and glass dildos
“The noises coming from the girls now could make you come just to hear it. It was making my cock surge and pulse listening to them enjoy each other so much. Letting my cock spring free of my boxers, I manoeuvred myself so I was behind the pair of them. I used Raven’s waist to steady me, my hands on her sensational curves, occasionally putting a hand down to guide me in. I needed to be inside my girl first.”
– Fulfilling our hotel threesome fantasy (commissioned erotica)
“A mouth gag makes the one playing the role of the submissive owned party feel even more controlled and vulnerable, they also stop much of the noise that the person may emit during a spanking or ‘sexy punishment’ session as well as making the gagged person look even more appealing and corruptible for the one in position of Dominance and control.”
There are a lot of different terms bandied around both the fetish and mainstream circles, relating to the orientation of players in kink and BDSM. Slave, submissive, switch – as well as various pet names such as puppy or bitch – can leave you feeling confused as to exactly where you stand in the grand scale of things.
The BDSM spectrum is very large (in fact I feel that vanilla or kinky, we are all on the same spectrum, not living synonymously) and the chances are you will find yourself drawn to one large label over another. My new article over at Erotica UK discusses why labels can be useful even if you’re averse to labelling yourself normally, and what the difference is between the big three terms for submissive players in BDSM.
There is nothing, repeat, nothing wrong with masturbation. It doesn’t make your palms hairy, you won’t go blind and your penis won’t fall off. Regular masturbation is a healthy part of an adult male’s sex life and there is nothing shameful about it whatsoever.
Post-relationship life: can you ever move on? When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to get into a comfortable routine of living. Your partner is there when you get back from work, or you make plans together, you discuss the … Continued
What do you do when your sex drive is stronger than your partner’s? How about having sexual fantasies that they have no interest in making reality? What if you’re the one who doesn’t fancy sex quite as often as before?
There are many ways to connect with others in the BDSM scene. Online, you may visit the several fetish forums and websites that exist, often featuring message boards, details of events and local persons with similar interests. A few examples of these are Fetlife, Informed Consent, Kink.com and Collarspace.
It’s not all hearts and roses. For adults in a committed relationship, there can be times when keeping a relationship alive and happy is a real struggle. Couples can find themselves battling against one or more of the most popular issues to beset relationships with challenging times.
By Cara Sutra:
Sexy time is important time. It doesn’t matter whether you’re involved in a relationship or single, whether you’re male or female. Regardless of your personal circumstances, making time to satisfy your sexual needs should be a priority for every adult. A big question, though, is how to make time for sexy time with a busy life?
“Being Dominant” encompasses a lot more than merely slapping some handcuffs on your chosen ‘submissive’ and flailing around with a flogger, enjoying the sound of your own berating voice. Here, however, we will be looking at what may be your first foray into the world of Dominance over your partner – in a mutually enjoyable and completely consensual way, of course.