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Ask CaraWant to know how to reignite the lust in your sex life? Bewildered by the array of sex toys and lubes out there and just not sure which is right? I’ll answer these questions and lots more in my advice column relating to sex toys, sex life and relationships. Ask Cara!

“Over time[…], what was once a pleasurable and satisfying sex life can often transform into a dull, monotonous and predictable routine which lacks excitement and the spark of something new. How can you make sure that your relationship doesn’t fall into this trap? Here are my top 20 ideas to help rekindle the passion in your long term relationship…”
– How to rekindle the passion in a long term relationship

“Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.”
– A guide to buying your first sex toy – regardless of sexuality, gender or relationship status

“It’s all very well knowing how to have sex, but what about the time leading up to the main event? Many people suffer from performance anxiety, which can start hours or even days before their sexual liaison. In this article I examine 6 steps which may help to soothe those sexual activity fears and make sure you’re as prepared as possible for the best sex you’ll ever have.”
– Sex basics: 6 steps to help you prepare for the best sex of your life

 

 

Our Favourite Sex Positions – And Why We Love Them

Are there some sex positions you find yourself 'coming' back to time after time? My partner and I definitely have our favourite sex positions, and in the past I’ve worried that we might be getting stuck in a rut. A rut that, admittedly, feels so good. But then when I went through the sex positions we enjoy on a regular basis, it turns out we enjoy more variety than I’d feared.

Bound To Serve… As A Sex Slave

After several months' training, both mental and physical, her slave was able to handle one of her ferocious whippings simply through tears, gritted teeth and with only a few sweary slip-ups. He'd learnt that lesson fast, she thought, her smile widening even further. An extra 5 minutes lashing for every curse he spat in her direction soon had him holding his tongue.

Why Do We Fetishize Strap-On Sex? Here’s The Top 10 Reasons

The fact that many people do fetishize strap-on sex, and insist that for them, it's a kinky act, isn't wrong or offensive to me. Pointing out the many reasons why this may be the case, what may have contributed to this conclusion that strap-on sex is necessarily kinky, doesn't mean I disagree that it is. For submissive men who love the idea or reality of strap-on sex, the truth is that it is kinky – and therein lies much of the enjoyment.

Enjoying Sex Furniture When You Don’t Have A Sex Dungeon

Visiting a venue with a range of sex furniture to experiment on and enjoy is something that most of us rarely get the opportunity to experience. Although sex furniture is becoming more affordable for people to consider buying and enjoying at home, there’s still one important issue to consider before you splash the cash. The big issue of… space.

My 5 Favourite Kinks – And Why I Find Them So Sexy

If I had to distil my love of everything (well, most things) kinky into a 'Top 5' compilation... what would make the list? Today I'm going to share with you my 5 favourite kinks, then explain why I find them so sexy.

Horny In A Heatwave? 7 Refreshing Ideas For Cool Summer Sex

Hot weather and horniness can be a troublesome mix. Sure, you could go fap it out in the shower, but what about when you want to get up close and personal with your partner? There's nothing wrong with hot, sticky, sweaty sex, but some people (like myself) might find it a little too uncomfortable to thoroughly enjoy. When the temperature is soaring in the bedroom - in all the wrong ways – how can you keep your cool and the intimate romance? Here's a few of my refreshing ideas for cool summer sex.

FemDom: The BDSM Scene Outsider?

FemDom is the Marmite of the BDSM world. Female Domination usually elicits a response firmly on one end of the scale or the other: yes please! or ...um, no thanks. While female submission has been warmly embraced by the masses, with sexualised imagery of restrained women now prevalent even in mainstream music and film media, FemDom is still viewed as extremely niche.  

Lovehoney Commemorative Royal Wedding Love Rings

Prince Harry – who is officially known as Prince Henry of Wales – is set to marry Rachel Meghan Markle on 19th May 2018. And, as has become traditional (we're big on tradition here in the UK), Lovehoney has created some sex toys to mark the occasion in their own special way. Introducing the Lovehoney Commemorative Royal Wedding Love Rings.

We-Vibe Anniversary Collection Celebrates 10 Years Of We-Vibe Sex Toys 

High-tech adult product manufacturer We-Vibe are celebrating 10 years of their cutting-edge, fast evolving and multi award-winning sex toys. The We-Vibe Anniversary Collection is a beautiful set comprising of two of the most popular sex toys from their range, offered in a glamorous new colour and housed in an ingenious storage case which doubles as a charging dock.

Futuristic Sex Tech: Is Using Sex Robots Ethical?

Whenever I hear about sex robots, I immediately conjure an image of the intensely charming Jude Law from the compelling and philosophical Spielberg movie, A.I. Artificial Intelligence. Beyond that likeable yet disturbing character, the phrase sex robot is an oxymoron to me. Sex is warm, wet, slippery and can be deeply emotional... whereas 'robotics' makes me think of computers; inanimate lumps of rigid cold metal and confusing tangles of wires.  

10 Great Tips To Get Older Women To Respond To Your Online Dating Messages

Learning how to write messages to older women takes time. We can’t all expect to land on the perfect formula straight away -- nor should we assume there is one. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to making a great first impression. And every guy needs to tailor what he says to his own personal style.

Tips To Boost Productivity When Working From Home

Being able to work from home seems like a dream come true for many. While working from home definitely has plentiful perks, it's also incredibly easy to form bad habits which mean your productivity ambles along somewhere just above zero. Being obligated to work in your own home environment can soon become a resented daily chore rather than providing the joyful freedom which appealed to you at the beginning. Sadly, I speak from experience.