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Need Sex Advice? Ask Cara!

Ask CaraWant to know how to reignite the lust in your sex life? Bewildered by the array of sex toys and lubes out there and just not sure which is right? I’ll answer these questions and lots more in my advice column relating to sex toys, sex life and relationships. Ask Cara!

“Over time[…], what was once a pleasurable and satisfying sex life can often transform into a dull, monotonous and predictable routine which lacks excitement and the spark of something new. How can you make sure that your relationship doesn’t fall into this trap? Here are my top 20 ideas to help rekindle the passion in your long term relationship…”
– How to rekindle the passion in a long term relationship

“Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.”
– A guide to buying your first sex toy – regardless of sexuality, gender or relationship status

“It’s all very well knowing how to have sex, but what about the time leading up to the main event? Many people suffer from performance anxiety, which can start hours or even days before their sexual liaison. In this article I examine 6 steps which may help to soothe those sexual activity fears and make sure you’re as prepared as possible for the best sex you’ll ever have.”
– Sex basics: 6 steps to help you prepare for the best sex of your life

 

 

Futuristic Sex Tech: Is Using Sex Robots Ethical?

Whenever I hear about sex robots, I immediately conjure an image of the intensely charming Jude Law from the compelling and philosophical Spielberg movie, A.I. Artificial Intelligence. Beyond that likeable yet disturbing character, the phrase sex robot is an oxymoron to me. Sex is warm, wet, slippery and can be deeply emotional... whereas 'robotics' makes me think of computers; inanimate lumps of rigid cold metal and confusing tangles of wires.  

10 Great Tips To Get Older Women To Respond To Your Online Dating Messages

Learning how to write messages to older women takes time. We can’t all expect to land on the perfect formula straight away -- nor should we assume there is one. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to making a great first impression. And every guy needs to tailor what he says to his own personal style.

Tips To Boost Productivity When Working From Home

Being able to work from home seems like a dream come true for many. While working from home definitely has plentiful perks, it's also incredibly easy to form bad habits which mean your productivity ambles along somewhere just above zero. Being obligated to work in your own home environment can soon become a resented daily chore rather than providing the joyful freedom which appealed to you at the beginning. Sadly, I speak from experience.

Touch And Please Satisfy All Your Sex Toy Shopping Desires

When it comes to growing your sex toy collection, it can be a challenge to know exactly where to shop. Finding a reliable and trustworthy online sex shop in the midst of so many can be confusing and quite intimidating. Today I'd like to introduce you to a relatively new sex toy shopping website, Touch and Please.

Turned On By His Tears

As the barrier crashes down within him, crumbling to reveal his true self, tears then finally begin to form. I see the subtlest glint and can't help wetting my own lips with my tongue in anticipation –in between my incessant tirade, the code to unlock his complete submissive self.  

Scared to Buy Your First Sex Toy? Here’s What to Do

Sex toys used to be a bit frowned on, kept hidden under stuff in the bottom drawer or in a box under the bed.  But now, people are much more open about their use and their benefits. They can help you enjoy a range of sensations and have fun.  But if you are looking to buy your first sex toy, it can still be intimidating, even when you use a top quality website like Pleasure Delights.

Best Small Butt Plugs For Tiny Bums

I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.

Coming Full Circle

The spotlight centred on my naked, kneeling body is bright enough to just reveal the dark forms stood in a circle surrounding me. I feel the men's presence, rather than see them; I'm seeing the scene through my mind's eye in any case, with my eyes squeezed tightly closed, blocking out reality, even while it commands my full sensory attention. 

London, Where Hiring An Escort Is Cheaper Than A Tinder Date!

Agreeing that someone's sexy is one thing, but what about your and their real intentions? Things can quickly turn from hot to not if one of you wants no-strings sex while the other harbours long term relationship dreams.

Pleasure Panel Program Now Exclusively For Patrons

Pleasure Panel Program Change: Now Exclusively For Patrons In recent months –and I mean from well before Christmas 2017- I have been considering how to ensure...

Reconnecting With My Slave

All that mattered was that it was you, and I was Me, and we were at last together again, present physically rather than two souls connected over long-distance solely through shared perversions, creative intelligence and our consistently passionate bond.  

Nurture Yourself With Your Choice Of Relaxing Erotic Massage from Xmassage

Fancy a massage? For most of us, the answer would always be a resounding yes, please! The responsibilities life weighs upon us –work, health, home life, financial obligations and more- combine to ensure that we're walking about in a state of maximum stress and tension much of the time. You probably don't even realise just how much tension is bound up in your mind and body right now because you get used to simply living with it.