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Ask CaraWant to know how to reignite the lust in your sex life? Bewildered by the array of sex toys and lubes out there and just not sure which is right? I’ll answer these questions and lots more in my advice column relating to sex toys, sex life and relationships. Ask Cara!

“Over time[…], what was once a pleasurable and satisfying sex life can often transform into a dull, monotonous and predictable routine which lacks excitement and the spark of something new. How can you make sure that your relationship doesn’t fall into this trap? Here are my top 20 ideas to help rekindle the passion in your long term relationship…”
– How to rekindle the passion in a long term relationship

“Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.”
– A guide to buying your first sex toy – regardless of sexuality, gender or relationship status

“It’s all very well knowing how to have sex, but what about the time leading up to the main event? Many people suffer from performance anxiety, which can start hours or even days before their sexual liaison. In this article I examine 6 steps which may help to soothe those sexual activity fears and make sure you’re as prepared as possible for the best sex you’ll ever have.”
– Sex basics: 6 steps to help you prepare for the best sex of your life

 

 

How To Invite Her Sex-Creature On A Date

By Galen Fous:
Are you aware that wild sex-creatures of every stripe may secretly romp and frolic within your partner’s sexual psyche while they have sex with you. What began as pleasantly passionate love-making, may have suddenly felt like you were being ravaged and devoured by a powerful beast. You might have had the thought – “Wow, who was that!” Of course, your own secret sex-creature may have been as ecstatically engaged as your partners!

How To Be Romantic Without Spending Any Money

By Cara Sutra:
It’s so easy to be swept along into the great commercialisation of love and romance. To cave under the weight of the ads and believe that romance is measured in expensive bouquets, hotel stays, sparkling jewellery and weekends abroad. Don’t me wrong – I love all that stuff. But it’s definitely not required in order for me to know that my partner loves me. Whatever your bank balance, there are ways to be incredibly romantic without spending any money. Or at least, very little… using items you probably already have around your home.

8 Ways To Sex Up Your Christmas

By Cara Sutra:
Christmas isn’t intrinsically sexy. The focus is on the home: gathering relatives and friends for a family closeness that often only happens this time of year. Traditional scenes of baking biscuits, sipping chocolate topped with cream and marshmallows and enjoying their excited little faces all aglow doesn’t exactly scream wanton and passionate romps with your partner. Let’s not miss an opportunity for adult mischief, though. I’ve got a few ideas to help make Christmas sexy for couples and get your name so indelibly on Santa’s naughty list he’ll only visit to deliver an over the knee spanking.

Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking & Bondage?

By Cara Sutra:
I absolutely LOVE getting spanked. Guess what? I LOVE being tied up too. You’ve probably heard loads about kinky sex, spanking and bondage in the last few years, and you might even be a bit fed up of everyone going on about them. Why is the world totally obsessed with spanking & bondage? And what about you? Would you ever indulge in these so-called sexy pleasures yourself?

A Rant About Rants: Venting On Social Media

By Cara Sutra:
I believe we all know people that we genuinely like – but wow, their social media updates really push our buttons. I know I do. And if you’re thinking it’s you, it’s probably not you. I’m talking about people who seem to spend the majority of their time venting on social media. It doesn’t seem to matter if it’s Twitter, Facebook or any other social media (does anyone even bother putting text updates on any other social media platform?) – their feed is just vent after wail after whinge after whine.

Social Media Filters & Other Ways To Stay Calm On Twitter & Facebook

By Cara Sutra:
Social media can be intense at the best of times. As this certainly isn’t the best of times, social platforms have fast become hot hubs of fear-mongering, panic and the high emotion that comes with them. For those who need to use social media like Twitter & Facebook as part of their job – or those who just have the 21st century addiction – it can be near impossible to visit socials and remain unaffected by the constant stream of negativity.

Forget Sex Positions; Hello Sex Locations

By Cara Sutra:
When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

How To Gift Lingerie She Loves For Christmas

By Mel MacFarlane:
As a woman, I love opening expensive new lingerie on Christmas morning (hint, hint). I love the thought of my other half lovingly choosing the delicate fabrics, admiring the cut of the soft lace and his face as he dreams of me wearing it. I picture him assertively flicking through the hangers, and the final eureka moment when he spies the perfect garment to emphasise my long legs, disguise my saggy tummy and deliver a cleavage to die for.

Despair Over The Stench Of A Presidential Trump

By Cara Sutra:
Shocked. Devastated. Emotionally drained. Physically wiped-out. Like many other people, I’m feeling the effects of a particularly grim year. We’ve lost so many creative, courageous and inspiring people from the world of media and the arts. The world barely has time to move on from one catastrophic happening before another tragedy, natural or man-made, strikes, bringing death but also terror and fear-inspired divisions among those left alive.

Lovehoney Moves Affiliate Scheme From Paid on Results To Webgains

By Cara Sutra:
The big news this week has got to be Lovehoney’s move from Paid on Results affiliate platform to Webgains. This was a huge blow for many affiliates, who like myself have written numerous posts and reviews containing PoR links – as well as all the social media updates out here containing PoR links too. Once the Paid on Results Lovehoney programme ends, those links will all be broken – leading nowhere, affecting blogs, readers, traffic numbers and of course, affiliate commissions.