Advice

Need Sex Advice? Ask Cara!

Ask CaraWant to know how to reignite the lust in your sex life? Bewildered by the array of sex toys and lubes out there and just not sure which is right? I’ll answer these questions and lots more in my advice column relating to sex toys, sex life and relationships. Ask Cara!

“Over time[…], what was once a pleasurable and satisfying sex life can often transform into a dull, monotonous and predictable routine which lacks excitement and the spark of something new. How can you make sure that your relationship doesn’t fall into this trap? Here are my top 20 ideas to help rekindle the passion in your long term relationship…”
– How to rekindle the passion in a long term relationship

“Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.”
– A guide to buying your first sex toy – regardless of sexuality, gender or relationship status

“It’s all very well knowing how to have sex, but what about the time leading up to the main event? Many people suffer from performance anxiety, which can start hours or even days before their sexual liaison. In this article I examine 6 steps which may help to soothe those sexual activity fears and make sure you’re as prepared as possible for the best sex you’ll ever have.”
– Sex basics: 6 steps to help you prepare for the best sex of your life

 

 

Sextrasafe – Promoting Safe Online Dating & Safer Sex

Asking whether someone has an STD isn't exactly choice first date chat material. What if there was an online service which anonymously shared the sexual health status of potential partners? That's exactly what Sextrasafe offers.

Sensual Wellbeing Masterclass from Temptation Holidays

Most of us would love to live a healthier life, but good intentions all too easily fall to the wayside in the pursuit of pleasure. Happily, there's now a way to combine better health with carnal passions: sensual wellbeing.

7 Ways To Recapture Your Honeymoon Sex Life

Busy lives and long-term relationships have a habit of forming the perfect recipe for a stale sex life. If you've been in a relationship with your partner for a while, you might have noticed that sex isn't quite as exciting as it was when you first met. Is there any way to recapture your honeymoon sex life?

How Can I Join The Pleasure Panel? I Want To Be A Sex Toy Tester!

If you would like to be a sex toy tester, reviewing sex toys & other adult products, the Pleasure Panel project and community is where it's at. It doesn't matter if you have your own sex blog or not, sex bloggers and sex toy fans without a blog are welcome to join.

Edible Underwear: Are Sexy Edibles Perfect Cheap Romantic Gifts? 

Buyer's guide sexy edibles & edible underwear spotlight: What are these cheap novelties really like? Are they a great sexy stocking filler for your partner or funny Secret Santa gift for office colleagues?

How To Enjoy Submission And BDSM In Everyday Life

For many people, submission and BDSM can only ever be enjoyed as part of a pre-arranged session. The fun might be even more restricted for others – only accessed via the internet. Some people, however, enjoy submission and BDSM on a 24/7 basis. What about you? Can you imagine ever including submission and BDSM in your everyday life? 

How Selfish Sex Can Drastically Improve Your Sex Life

There are far too many articles in existence giving advice on how to please someone else during sex. 10 Ways To Drive Your Man Wild In Bed! 8 Sex Techniques To Make Her Fall In Love! How To Give Them Sex They'll Never Forget! Unexpected Sex Stuff They'll Adore! What They Really Want You To Do During Sex! et al, ad infinitum. Meanwhile, selfish sex is massively underrated.

What Should Freelance Bloggers Charge Per Article?

A frequent question I get asked is, "how much do I charge per blog post?" Whether the post is going to be on your blog or on a client's website, what should freelance bloggers charge per article?

​Retroactive Jealousy – Why You’re Hung Up On Your Partner’s Sexual Past

Several years ago I used to suffer from what is known as retroactive jealousy — an irrational obsession with a partner’s sexual or romantic past. It all started with me when my new girlfriend and I were woken up at 2 am by one of her former hook-up buddies calling to see if she was “around” that night.

Is Submission A Sign Of Weakness?

Is submission a sign of weakness? Many are fooled into thinking so. I'm talking about submission in sexual or power exchange terms; submission as part of BDSM. 

Am I Bisexual Or Pansexual? 

I've always thought of myself as bisexual. Well, not always – the realisation that I was sexually attracted to anyone at all came with puberty, and the shock of being attracted to girls as well as boys struck me around the same time.

Lovehoney Desire Bullet & We Vibe Tango Vibrator Comparison Review

Poppycat22 from the Cara Sutra Pleasure Panel recently wrote an in-depth review of the Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator. In addition, Poppycat22 very kindly provided a comparison review between this Lovehoney Desire Bullet Vibrator and the We Vibe Tango.