Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings (& What We Use Instead)

If you’re a regular sex toy shopper, you’ll have noticed vibrating cock rings amongst the offerings for men and couples. Vibrating cock rings are designed to offer penis-owners the pleasure of vibration, as well as the tantalising restriction which encourages a firmer, longer lasting erection. You might see these sex toys labelled as ‘love rings’ or ‘couples cock rings’ when designed for penis-in-vagina sex use. In that situation they claim to provide the woman with clitoral pleasure, as the vibrations are felt against her vulva and clitoral areas during sexual intercourse.

My Experiences With Vibrating Cock Rings

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Unfortunately, my experiences with vibrating cock rings have been disappointing, to say the least. I very rarely find orgasmic –or even pleasurable- success when using vibrating cock ring (love rings) during sex with him.

In fact, apart from a few vibrating cock rings –which are made by established & reliable sex toy manufacturers- they’ve all been pretty naff.

Vibrating Cock Rings I Enjoyed

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

I enjoyed the Lovehoney Bionic Bullet Rabbit Vibrating Cock Ring, especially as the bullet is removable and is a fantastic little toy by itself.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

The vibrating cock ring option from the Ooh by Je Joue pick ‘n mix sex toys line is also fun – but again, I enjoyed the fact that it was part of an interchangeable set. I have the option to use the included motor with other ‘shapes’ to create great masturbatory toys for me alone.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Finally, the Ann Summers Rampant Rabbit Moregasm Cock Ring simply blew us away with mega-powerful vibrations. This vibrating cock ring was more effective than other types because it has a very large surface area, so I was able to maintain contact with the vibrations for longer during sex.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

The Lovehoney Desire Luxury Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring looks like it would work similarly.

The Not So Great

The other vibrating cock rings we’ve tried range from the mehness of the LELO Tor 2 to the utter fail of vibrating disposable jelly love rings like the Loving Joy Disposable Cock Ring, the Billy Boy Disposable Cock Ring and the Skins Vibe Ring.

The first edition OVO love rings, despite being gorgeous and made of silicone, were also disappointingly rubbish. And don’t even get me started on the Eve Body Responsive Couples Love Ring.

So What’s My Problem?

My main problem with vibrating cock rings isn’t the material they’re made of, although ugh, really? TPR? Jelly? Ok, well I guess the majority of those are designed to be disposable, and they’re usually dirt-cheap, so… forgivable.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use InsteadIt’s not even that plenty take those bloody awful watch batteries which I drop and lose on the floor every time I try to replace them, then spend ages scrabbling round for them desperately because I don’t want to have to try and remember which stupid type of battery it even was in the first place to buy them again. Then when I do get them in the toy, and the cap screwed back on, I’ve got them round the wrong way. So the whole nightmare begins all over again.

It’s not even that. I can see why small batteries for small sex toys makes sense. Especially combined with supremely low price points.

It’s that much of the time, they just don’t work for me.

Yeah they switch on and everything (mostly). But during our penis-in-vagina sex, there’s a lot of body movement. There’s the action of going in and out, and up and down. We enjoy having vigorous, passionate, fun sex. The type of sex which means our bodies aren’t motionless against each other like we’re trying to beat Sting in an epic Tantric battle to the little death. All of this means that I don’t get to feel those cock ring vibrations against my clit all that much.

Sometimes those vibrations are omfg powerful. More often, they’re “is that a vibrating cock ring or an insect in its death throes?” weak. Either way, all I get is a maddening, distracting on-off tease. And being teased when I want an orgasm ain’t my kink*.

What Works For Us

When I want some clitoral stim during PiV sex, we don’t use vibrating cock rings. He can use a standard cock ring which doesn’t get in the way yet still gives him the grip round his shaft base and balls that he loves, and I can use another sex toy on my clit.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

If I’m on my back then I can use my Doxy Number Three on my clit while he’s inside me. I love this new version of my top fave, the Doxy Massager, because it’s lighter than the original yet still wickedly effective.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

A low-budget option is to use a bullet vibrator on my clit instead – this has the added benefit of no wires getting in the way, and can be easier to take on travels. The Tracey Cox Supersex bullet is superb and low priced, but battery powered (you get it with a cock ring if you buy this, however).

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

My ultimate favourite bullet vibe has to be the Loving Joy Power Bullet which is just shy of £40 but rechargeable and genuinely powerful. It’s quiet too.

Of course, the downside of using a separate sex toy for clit stim is having to use a hand to hold it in position. For me the benefits outweigh that small niggle; after all I get to have the vibrating stimulation as constantly as I wish and I can put those vibrations exactly in the right place for me at any moment.

The Awesome Cock Rings

Cock rings can be brilliant – for penis-owners. Clue’s in the name I guess. But for us, trying to take a toy which is worn by him and stretching it –literally– to try to give me pleasure too? It doesn’t work, more often than not.

Our cock ring collection is majorly non-vibrating styles, as these are worn round the base of his penis, or more often round the base of his penis and his testicles, so he can enjoy a firmly gripped sensation throughout foreplay and sex. Static cock rings make his erection seem harder, somehow – and it does last for ages. His balls are stretched taut as well, making any attention I give them feel more pronounced and delicious.

If you’re looking for a long lasting static cock ring to use in this way, I would advise checking out both the toy material and style (thickness, flexibility etc) before you part with your cash.

Clonezone UK offer some brilliant static rings from Titus, such as this Titus Silicone Series Blue Cock Rings 3 Pack and the Titus Basics Beaded Cock Rings 3 Pack. All silicone.

So too is the Rocks Rings Hellfire 2 Cock Rings Set, and the outstanding Perfect Fit Play Zone Cock Ring Set from Simply Pleasure (who also sell the entire Rock Rings range).

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

Consider Your Options

When it comes to cock rings, as I see it you’ve got a few options.

-Use static or vibrating cock rings on your own, as a penis-owner

-Use static cock rings only for PiV sex

-Take no notice of my personal preferences and try out vibrating cock rings for partnered sex anyway. Who knows, you may absolutely love them!

As for me, when it comes to using vibrating cock rings during PiV sex: I’m out.

 

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings And What We Use Instead

*but if it’s yours, go for it!

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2 COMMENTS

  1. Vibrating cock rings have also not done much for me BUT I haven’t used one in a while, and some of the newer options might work better (I have the Ooh one, I think). I think that part of the issue might be one toy trying to do multiple things. Often, focusing on one goal works better.

  2. One thing i noticed about your pictured ones is, they all have the vibration part going sideways or horizontal to the ring, instead of up and down, or verticle to it, my wife loves the ones we have that are basically a sleve for a egg vibrator, that has it pointed basically at my head, when she is on top, it is large enough to reach the right spots, and powerfull enough to get the job done, before we got this, she had never orgasimed in her life. the first time was so strong it brought tears to her eyes.we use the CalExotics Shane’s World His Vibrating Stimulator

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