Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking & Bondage?

By Cara Sutra

I absolutely LOVE getting spanked. Guess what? I LOVE being tied up too. You’ve probably heard loads about kinky sex, spanking and bondage in the last few years, and you might even be a bit fed up of everyone going on about them. Why is the world totally obsessed with spanking & bondage? And what about you? Would you ever indulge in these so-called sexy pleasures yourself?

Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking and Bondage

Media Effect

The times when spanking and bondage were seen purely as the domain of social outcasts and those labelled as ‘perverts’ are now, thankfully, far behind us. BDSM and kink, and the relationships formed therein, were enjoying a natural evolution into the limelight already – but the Fifty Shades of Grey tsunami Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking and Bondagetriggered an undeniable surge in the popularity of spanking and bondage. First came the book trilogy, then the official sex toys, then the first Fifty Shades of Grey movie. The second film, Fifty Shades of Grey Darker, is set to be released February 2017 – so you can expect another wave of media attention on spanking & bondage as they step into the mainstream spotlight once more.

Sensuality of Spanking

Some elements of spanking deserve a deeper consideration. Why is spanking enjoyable/arousing for its fans? The recipient of an erotic spanking is placed into an exposed and vulnerable position for the spanking session.  A position which is in line with that person’s inner desire to be submissive in some way, whether they’re sexually submissive, lifestyle, or just enjoy role-playing as the ‘bottom’ in a BDSM session.  For some, spanking is simply the realisation of masochistic fantasies.

Spanking is a common entryway to BDSM and kink. The beauty of spanking is that it can be delivered as delicately or as forcefully as the deliverer and recipient consents to and desires. There’s no need to jump straight in at the deep end, with canes, crops and other stinging punishment implements; an OTK (Over The Knee) hand Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking and Bondagespanking can be an erotic, pleasurable and intimate experience. Spanking might well stir sexual cravings, but it is often enjoyed just as much when undertaken between a Dom and sub in a non-sexual power exchange relationship.

What does the person dishing out the spanking get out of it? The Dom or Top in the spanking session enjoys the power and control which comes from delivering a satisfying spank. They might have sadistic fantasies of their own, or (like myself) they enjoy fulfilling that need in the submissive or bottom and the consequential effects.

Bondage Allure

Let’s talk about bondage (baby). Bondage meaning restraint for sexual or otherwise pleasurable reasons between consenting adults. We’ve probably all seen those furry handcuffs which are firm favourites of stag & hen partygoers everywhere, but there’s a lot more to bondage than sticking some fake police cuffs on them and wandering off laughing. Yes, really. Bondage sex toys have come a long way since such novelty and quite often dangerous adult accessories. PS. Please consider not using metal handcuffs in your bondage sessions.

Different Types Of Restraints

Since bondage lovers aren’t limited to the 80s offerings of an Ann Summers or Private Shop any more, we can experiment with all sorts of safe, comfortable yet still completely reliable bondage accessories. There are leather wrist/ankle cuffs, spreader bars with cuffs attached, beautiful Shibari rope bondage kits, suspension rope bondage kits, sensory deprivation hoods and masks and a whole lot more. Bondage cuffs come in your choice of material: leather, vegan leather, neoprene, silicone – and have various styles of fastening such as quick release triggers, non-intimidating velcro or heavy duty buckles which might even be lockable.

Why Is Everyone So Obsessed With Spanking and BondageUsing bondage restraints -as opposed to just commanding a person to stay where they are as part of your Dom/sub roleplay scene- produces dramatic physical sensations & psychological reactions for the person being bound. Being unable to move makes the person in bondage very vulnerable, and feel that vulnerability to the fullest extent. For bondage lovers, this vulnerable feeling combined with the physical sensations is what’s so addicting. You’re completely at the mercy of your partner when in bondage and the huge amount of trust required means a bond automatically forms between you. If the bondage does involve or lead to sexual fun, the person bound enjoys being absolved of any ‘choice’ relating to those sexual actions while the one in control can enjoy consensual non-consent fantasies made real. Of course, at all times there should be a safeword or other way or safing out in place; the foundation element of all BDSM is consent.

Spanking & Bondage: A Positive Impact

Spanking and bondage have always been popular, but now they’ve been pushed under the mainstream spotlight that popularity is a very public one. More people than ever are asking what spanking and bondage is, why they’re so enjoyable and considering whether they’d like to experiment with some form of BDSM & kink themselves. Sessions where control role-play, spanking and bondage take place are undoubtedly a powerful way to increase intimacy between couples. Although consent and trust should be the basis for all adult pleasure pursuits between folk, they’re never more obviously present than when someone is vulnerable during spanking and bondage fun.

If you’re curious about these areas of BDSM then you don’t have to feel afraid, or too much of a newbie to ‘do it right’. Take it slowly, remember the main rules about active consent and safewords, and stop if you’re just not enjoying it at any time. Use the appropriate bondage accessories for your experience level: a teasing feather and a hand-spanking are easier to control than a crop or bullwhip, and quick release bondage cuffs are more reassuring to a new sub/bottom than lockable leather cuffs or a sensory deprivation hood.

It’s no wonder the world is obsessed with spanking and bondage. No other activities come close to such a tangible demonstration of trust between partners while fulfilling fantasies centred around vulnerability, masochism and other previous society taboos.

 

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