Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

Beginners Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

by Cara Sutra

Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down? Most people have at least heard of butt plugs, but all too often anal sex toys are just things that ‘other people use’.

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Hopefully you’re here because you’re open (so to speak!) to learning more about anal sex toys, what they exactly are and how to use them for best effect. Sexual pleasure is most definitely not ‘one size fits all’ – and neither are butt plugs. You can let out that sigh of relief now.

Oh, and please don’t make the mistake of thinking that a desire for anal pleasure is in any way related to gender or sexuality. If you’re an adult with a butt then you can enjoy anal play without it necessarily ‘making’ you anything but an open-minded sexual adventurer. Sex toys are made for parts of the anatomy, not genders or sexualities!

For the absolute beginner to anal sex toys, there’s three main facets to remember and consider before doing any butt fun shopping: size, material, and for goodness’ sake don’t forget the lube. First rule of butt fun club: No-one plays without the lube.

Size Does Matter After All

Beginners Guide To Anal Sex Toys Cara SutraYep, sorry folks, but it’s true. Size is incredibly important… when it comes to selecting the right anal toy for you. It’s not even just about length, girth is just as important (isn’t it always, wink wink). Cock jokes aside, the girth of your butt plug will determine if you can a) insert it at all and b) whether you’re put off anal play for life afterwards.

Made Of Stern Stuff

I’d hate to speak for everyone, but when shopping for anal sex toys I want to make sure I’m spending my money on a product which is made of a durable, body-safe, hygienic and waterproof material. This is a sex toy made to be inserted into what is viewed as the most unhygienic part of the human body so the idea that a porous and/or non-waterproof anal sex toy is somehow acceptable is, quite honestly, spectacularly tragic. I want my anal sex toys about as ‘wipe clean only’ as anything else which comes into contact with or enters my genitals. Unless it’s a disposable product, waterproof, submersible and fully washable is the best way to go.

What do I mean by a porous material? Some sex toys are made with materials which can let bacteria enter into the material itself. This means there’s the chance of bacteria and mould residing inside the material of your sex toy forever more into the future, even if you think you’ve cleaned it thoroughly. Materials to avoid are jelly, PVC, TPE, TPR and real skin feel materials (such as CyberSkin, FantaFlesh and UR3), whereas ideal & non-porous materials include silicone or rigid types such as body-safe glass, metal, stone and even plastic if you’re on a tight budget (and can find a waterproof style).

Which Anal Sex Toys Are Right For Me?

There are anal sex toys available which will appeal and give pleasure to everyone from the trembling, nerve-wracked beginner to the legs-akimbo anal reaming fetishist. Let’s take a look:

Beginner Butt Plugs & Anal Beads

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If you’re looking for the traditionally shaped butt plug, the smallest girth butt plugs tend to be around 2.5 to 3 inches circumference at the widest part. With some warm up action from either yourself or a partner, as well as a dollop or two of lube, most people should be able to insert a beginner butt plug of that girth. It is helpful to start by inserting your finger first to ‘feel out’ the lubricated area, and in so doing create a smooth and ready entry-way for the butt plug.

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Sounds too wide for you still? Never fear, there is another route to back door thrills. Anal beads and probes come in either static or vibrating styles and, unlike traditional butt plugs, are slender in overall shape. You might enjoy the silicone Sex & Mischief Silicone Anal Beads if vibrations aren’t your thing, or the sensational vibrations of the fully washable Booty Beads 2 to upgrade your anal pleasure.

Standard Size Butt Plugs

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The recognisable ‘butt plug’ shape (flared base, narrow neck, wider main area finished with a gently pointed tip) is seen in what I’d call standard butt plugs. Not tiny and not large, standard size butt plugs tend to be about 5 inches in circumference at the widest part. They can vary between 4.5 and 6 inches. A butt plug over 6 inches in maximum circumference at the widest part is a large butt plug.

A great example of a standard size butt plug is the Nexus Ace Medium. Made from body-safe, non-porous silicone, waterproof and with wireless remotely controlled vibrations, this butt plug is 5 inches maximum circumference. I have one myself and I love it.

If you’re not sure you’re ready to move on from a beginner butt plug, there are anal training kits with varying sizes of butt plugs for you to discover and try out.

Large Butt Plugs

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For the expert anal adventurer looking for a new challenge, large butt plugs do exist and wow – they do go up to some eye-watering sizes.

The Colossus XXL Butt Plug is 7.8 inches in maximum circumference and definitely not for the faint at heart (or rear).

Specialist Butt Plugs

Examples of specialist butt plugs are inflatable and lockable types, for the more kinky amongst you. Perhaps the best known specialist anal sex toys are prostate massagers. I tend to call the prostate the ‘boy butt bonus’ because that’s what it is, really – only guys have this walnut shaped gland inside the anal area which can be stimulated for intense anal pleasure. Even better, regular stimulation of the prostate keeps it nice and healthy.

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Prostate massagers benefit from years of research into how best to stimulate the prostate gland, and they’re specially shaped to do a brilliant job every time. Just like anal beads and butt plugs, prostate massagers come in both static and vibrating options, with more luxurious styles offering wireless remote control features and rechargeable power.

You can read comprehensive tips and advice about prostate massage in this brilliant guide.

Anal Play Accessories

Play confidently – use a douche

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It’s perfectly normal to be worried about icky mess when you first venture into anal play territory. If you use one of these anal douches before you start playing, either by yourself or with a partner, you’re bound to feel more relaxed and confident about enjoying your anal adventures.

Don’t forget the lube

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I’ve said it before, but it’s always worth saying again: Don’t forget the lube! If you’re using a silicone butt plug then you’ll need to use water based lube or a toy safe hybrid lubricant, but for plastic and non-porous rigid sex toy materials you’re able to use silicone lubricant without worry that you’ll damage the material.

Read my beginner’s guide to sexual lubricants here.

All about that (flared) base

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Every one of your anal sex toys should have a flared base, or a finger loop, or something to stop it being drawn up into your body. Unlike the vagina which has the cervix at the top, the anal area does not have a natural ‘stopper’. Anal sex toys will travel deeper into the body if allowed, which is why in order to avoid embarrassing emergency hospital visits (and worse) you should always only use anal sex toys with a flared base.

Where Should I Buy My Anal Sex Toys?

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For The Closet is an easy to navigate, friendly online sex shop which offers low prices, free UK delivery for £30+ orders as well as an exciting loyalty scheme. You also get 10% off if you sign up as a member. Your anal sex toys (along with anything else you order) will arrive in discreet and safe packaging, so you don’t need to worry about your postman or neighbours discovering your anal pleasure plans.

Happy anal adventuring – and if you have any questions or comments about anal sex toys I look forward to your comments below.

 

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