The Best Sex Toys To Use For Amazing Lesbian Sex

By Cara Sutra

If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I’m talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us. Yes, you can have amazing lesbian sex.

What I’m trying to say is: don’t be a cock; you don’t need a cock.

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Today I want to focus on the best tools for girl on girl (or under, or side-by-side) pleasure. With a little ingenuity, a lot of imagination and this guide, you should have everything you need to dive into your stockpile of Sapphic sex toys and give your lady lover the amazing lesbian sex session of her most passionate dreams.

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Set The Scene With Teasing Foreplay

Before diving straight for the well-known ‘hot spots’ on her body during your amazing lesbian sex, make sure you set the scene for passion. And I don’t mean just clearing away the dirty laundry from round the bed. Although there’s definitely a time and a place for the ‘quickie’, longer sessions where you both take your time can lead to incredibly intense shared pleasure.

Don’t underestimate how effective simple looking accessories can be… when used in your expert hands, of course! A feather tickler can be used over her inner thighs and back to deliver lighter strokes than you could achieve with your fingertips, giving her goosebumps and the first tendrils of arousal.

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An ice cube run under the tap is an easy way to introduce a thrill to naked skin (make sure you’ve put an old towel or sheet down first) or why not expand your temperature play with this vibrating ice massager? You don’t have to turn it on – at least, not until you’re both ready for more. Too chilly? Give her a temperature raising erotic massage with the help of some sensuous massage oil. There are even massage candles which, when lit, introduce a relaxing, romantic scent and scene to the room bit that’s not all. These specially designed candles melt to leave a massage oil which can be drizzled on to her back and bottom and used in the sensual massage.

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Sexual lubricant is all too often viewed as just an accessory to bedroom fun rather than a tool in its own right – lubricant removes the friction that can often make exploration of your partner feel more jolting than smooth. There are ‘special effect’ lubricants as well; try a cooling or warming type whether somewhere relatively innocent (inner thighs, collar bone, back of her neck) or to add another layer of stimulation later on in the session. Flavoured lubricants are also fun to experiment with and come in many different flavours so there should be one which appeals to both of you.

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Kissing is an intimate experience that can communicate all the passion and emotion you feel for each other in between touching each other’s bodies elsewhere. Don’t forget kissing as a unique way to increase the intimacy between you and make her feel cherished. It’s not all about the frenzied thrusting in amazing lesbian sex.

Nipple Stimulation

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When you’re both relaxed and aroused and ready to move on to something even more enticing during your amazing lesbian sex, her (and your) breasts are the obvious choice. I know this section is marked as nipple stimulation but there’s more to boobs than just those sensitive areolae. Teasing the surrounding area of her breasts, the sides and underneath, can be a thrill for both of you – and will get her nipples sitting up begging for attention.

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You can use the light strokes of the feather teaser again – or introduce a few more sensation tools. No-one knows your partner better than you, so think carefully about how playful or how kinky you want to get. There are light nipple suction tools, some of which have added vibration – or nipple clamps for the braver types, varying in intensity. If you’re both feeling incredibly daring then a pair of vampire gloves or a Wartenberg Pinwheel will add prickles of erotic sensation to the sensitive skin of her breasts and nipples.

Erotic Nerve Centre: The Clitoris

You knew it was coming; loudly, unashamedly and (if you’re lucky) multiple times. I’m going to talk about the clitoris. This is really the female orgasm HQ, as more women orgasm from clitoral stimulation than from vaginal penetration. It makes sense to know where your and her clitorises are, how to stimulate them and the best sex toys to use when planning amazing lesbian sex.

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Bullet vibrators are your friend for amazing lesbian sex. Really. They’re small, quiet, portable, discreetly moved about whether from drawer to bed or tucked into your palm any time – and powerful enough to deliver back-arching orgasms if you have the right one. The Sh bullet vibrator (my review) delivers intense vibrations and it can be used with water based or silicone lubricant. Winner. Another brilliant bullet vibe loved by so many women is the Rocks Off RO-80mm. Works for me!

Worn or butterfly vibrators are often touted as being simply for a solo woman to use whether under her clothes or during masturbation, but they can add a whole lot of fun to shared girly playtimes too. These vibes are clitoral stimulators held in place over the clitoris by way of a harness, keeping the buzzy action on your or her hot spot absolutely hands-free. Whether just one or both of you decide to indulge, a hands-free butterfly vibrator tending to your clit leaves your hands and mouth free to roam – and your arousal rocketing sky high. This might still turn into a quickie after all.

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For power queens who like nothing short of jackhammer level vibrations to get them off, it has to be the Doxy Wand Vibrator. If she’s one of those difficult-to-get-there girls (what? Stop looking at me like that) then I definitely advise buying one of these incredibly powerful vibrators. Quiet and discreet it isn’t (shut the windows before you start) but orgasm-inducing it most definitely is.

Of course the above are just sex toy suggestions to give her shudderingly good clitoral stimulation – your fingers and tongue will undoubtedly be very welcome too during your amazing lesbian sex. Don’t forget what I was saying about lubricant… her vagina produces its own natural lubrication with arousal but this usually doesn’t reach up to the clitoris. Avoid chafing and discomfort (such a turn-off) by making sure her clit is well lubricated.

Penetrative Sensations For The Vagina

For penetrative vaginal play in your amazing lesbian sex you don’t have to resort to nasty rubber fake penis (joy of joys!). Now that vaginal stimulation and the understanding of it has moved on from very early sex toy designs, there are plenty of beautifully sculpted, artistic designs in body-safe materials for you and your lover to enjoy.

Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium prioritise body safe vibrators and dildos and actually manufacture their own gorgeous silicone dildos here in the UK. Why not take a look at the range, which includes breathtakingly exquisite marbled designs.

As well as the traditional dildo and vibrator, there are plenty of rabbit vibrators you can use on or with a partner for dual stimulation of the vagina and clitoris. There are also internally worn sex toys such as love eggs and jiggle balls which can provide textured, weighted and/or vibrating stimulation in her vagina whether as a pre-cursor to your erotic pleasure session or even during sex itself. Try this remote controlled vibrating love egg which adds even more of a thrill – when she hands over control of the vibrations to you.

Anal Sex & Stimulation

More and more people are discovering that what was once deemed ‘forbidden fruit’ actually tastes quite exquisite. Have you tried anal play yet? Did you know that some women can orgasm through anal stimulation alone? I’m one of those women (I know, lucky girl!), which is why I’m such an advocate of other women at least giving it a go. You may find that one or both of you love it and want to incorporate anal stim into your future sex sessions.

Anal sex toys aren’t all scary huge things that scream ‘lasting mental and physical scars’. There are slender anal probes, anal beads and butt plugs especially designed for beginners, made from body safe materials and with the safety of a flared base. Remember to always use lubricant when stimulating the anal area with fingers or sex toys – this part of the body doesn’t produce its own natural lubrication during sex like the vagina does. Use lube and enjoy anal pleasure, not chafing or discomfort.

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Once you’ve dabbled enough in anal stimulation to know whether you or she enjoys it, you can start looking at ways to upgrade your anal play sessions for anally amazing lesbian sex. There are gorgeous glass and metal butt plugs which can be cooled down or warmed up before use (always use a bowl of water at a temperature safe for the body) – and if you’re feeling kinky, there are even butt plug tails which introduce a sexy roleplay element. Vibrating butt plugs can also be fun during sex together, for one or both of you – and some even come with a wireless remote control for thrilling power exchange moments…

Strap Ons For Shared Pleasure

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If you’re a fan of strap on sex then you’ve got more harness choice now, in 2015, than you ever had before. Dismiss worries of only being able to find clunky, uncomfortable and probably even toxic strap-on sex toys. There are incredibly beautiful, body-safe, easy and comfortable to use strap on sex sets for women which will meet your needs.

Traditional style strap ons don’t have to be boring, this corset back strap on harness from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium is absolutely divine – I own one of these myself and love it. Team with a Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium Silicone dildo in the colour, size and style of your choice and slip through the O ring to secure. Other strap on harnesses may come with a little pocket into which a bullet vibrator can be placed, giving the wearer clitoral stimulation during sex with her partner.

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Not into strapping up for sex? Try a strapless strap on. These clever sex toys have a shaped probe worn in the vagina and a protruding dildo which can then be used on her partner to deliver vaginal or anal penetrative pleasure. Brilliant examples include the Feeldoe strapless strap ons and the recently released Fun Factory Share Vibe (read my review here).

You could go strap-on adventuring with super fun styles like a thigh strap on, or even a chin strap on which is used during oral sex to deliver internal stimulation while you’re focussing on lapping her clitoris and the rest of her vulva).

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Another very traditional lesbian sex toy is the double ender. Make sure that double ended dildos you buy are supremely flexible (you both want to be able to move during sex without any discomfort) and body safe materials such as non-porous silicone are best.


Although I’ve taken you through many different kinds of sex toys which bisexual and lesbian women can enjoy sharing with their partner, sex toys are made for anatomy – not sexuality or gender. You will find that many (but admittedly not all) sex toys made for people with a clitoris, vagina, breasts will suit your needs because these products have been created to stimulate those parts of the body.

What money can’t buy is a creative imagination to use with your partner. As I said at the start, sometimes what may seem like the simplest accessory can be used during foreplay and amazing lesbian sex to excite your partner like never before. Try introducing some roleplay, bedroom bondage or drawing out erotic foreplay instead of diving straight into sex and you could soon discover new dimensions to your intimate relationship which you both thoroughly enjoy.

 

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