Sex toys lead to satisfaction regardless of sexuality, age, gender or disability

cara sutra reviews sex toysWhat’s your opinion of people who use sex toys? The sex toy industry is booming, so it must be true what they say: sex sells. At least, it does to those people who confidently explore the different sensations that sex toys offer. Not everyone feels able to to stalk into a high street sex shop and brazenly thrust armfuls of rabbit vibrators and butt plugs at the cashier. Even though the digital age spawned hundreds of sex toy websites offering a discreet erotic home shopping experience, many remain reluctant to use a sex toy for sexual gratification.

Attitudes towards sex toys

If you’ve never used a sex toy before, whether for solo masturbation or with a partner, it can feel a little strange to introduce a separate object into either activity. Often, the question is raised about why sex toys are even required for masturbation or couples’ sex at all. After all, sex toys are merely inanimate objects which don’t feel and can’t tell if they’re stimulating you ‘just right’ like another person can.

Men have historically had their own battles to face when it comes to sex toys. Many men who are in relationships have felt threatened by the appearance of another phallic shaped object in the bedroom. Insecurities can surface about whether their partner finds them sexually satisfying enough.

There is also an ongoing struggle against the widespread stigma about male sex toys as well. Male masturbation is often viewed as a dirty habit, a shameful secret, while female masturbation generally gets a more erotic view. There’s banter amongst men that they shouldn’t need masturbator devices if they are in any way attractive to women, and men who use sex dolls face even more of a stigma from society.

Introducing sex toys to the bedroom

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With the above stigmas and widespread attitudes in mind, it can feel like an insurmountable hurdle to introduce sex toys to your sex life with a partner. Are they going to feel like they aren’t good enough for you?

It’s important to understand that, as I’ve said before, sex toys are the seasoning to a good sex life, not a replacement. No sex toy can ever hope to replace the physical and emotional connection you share with your partner, and a sex toy can’t respond to your unique needs like someone who shares that relationship bond. Sex toys are accessories, just like any other home appliance.

For example, the majority of women do not achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration. Many require clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Although this is obviously possible with some manual assistance either with your own hand during masturbation or sex, or with your partner’s fingers or tongue, a sex toy can deliver sensations which make reaching orgasm even easier. This frees up you and your partner to enjoy the shared intimate experience without feeling undue worry or pressure to satisfy and perform.

Although many men enjoy masturbation on a regular basis with nothing more than their own hand and perhaps a squirt of lube, masturbation devices can offer so many different sensations through material types, tightness of the penetrable space, internal textures and even vibrations. Variety is the spice of life after all, so why not enjoy some in your masturbation and shared sex life?

After an honest discussion with your partner about how sex toys could help you enjoy new sexual experiences together, you will be ready to introduce them to the bedroom without any hang-ups or lingering insecurities.

Sex toys can improve sex lives – for everyone

Although the majority of TV ads and websites would have you believe that every single adult is a 100% healthy and able person, the reality of life is quite different. Many adults suffer from physical (and mental) disabilities which can affect morale, sex drive and the physical capabilities when it comes to sex and masturbation. A lot of men have erectile dysfunction to contend with, which is as much a mental barrier (with related self-esteem issues) to enjoyable sex as it is a physical one.

Happily, forward-thinking sex toy companies such Hot Octopuss believe that every adult deserves the ability to enjoy a fully satisfying sex life. That’s why their multiple award-winning Pulse sex toy design was born out of a desire to be all-embracing, regardless of physical restriction.

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Nicknamed the Guybrator, Pulse 2 Solo and Pulse 2 Duo bring something to the world of sex toys that I’ve certainly never seen before. This versatile product offers men intense and powerful vibrating stimulation, with speed and pulse options – which can bring man to orgasm hands-free. Yes, really!

As well as the potential that a hands-free masturbation session offers, Pulse 2 Solo & Duo can be enjoyed by a man’s female sexual partner too. While the Pulse sex toy envelops his penis with pleasure, she can also enjoy the vibrations given through the device on her clitoris by straddling him. It’s a unique yet incredibly popular sex toy with both men and couples – both fully physically able people and those with physical limitations.

The #SexNotStigma campaign

Hot OctopussCAVGbkQUcAAb7gD launched the #SexNotStigma campaign to not only highlight the sexual pleasure benefits that Pulse 2 Solo & Duo can offer men and couples, but also to show that sex is enjoyed by a diverse group of adults in life. Older people as well as young. Wheelchair users. Men who suffer with erectile problems. Adults who have lost a limb. Non-CIS people, CIS people, genderqueer, transpeople, kinksters, gay, bisexual, hetero – sexual pleasure is on offer to every adult, no matter what.

#SexNotStigma hopes to break down some of the barriers that people who fall outside of the most commonly accepted ‘life-labels’ face on a daily basis, and in particular with reference to their sex lives. Sexual pleasure shouldn’t come with any stigma attached, and neither should people who differ from the ‘shampoo-ad’ norms.

Adam Lewis, the co-founder of Hot Octopuss and designer of PULSE, had this to say about their company ethos and the Sex Not Stigma campaign:

“Hot Octopuss exists to improve people’s sex lives, regardless of their age, gender, sexual preference or physical ability. It is a well-known fact that a happy sex life is often key to a happy relationship. For too long there has been a stigma attached to the use of sex toys, stifling people’s happiness and holding them back from saying what they really want in bed. Some of the hardest silences to break are those in the bedroom, which is why we want to start a sexual revolution where people feel they can break free from the shackles of stereotype and tell their partners what they really want.”

Adam continued:

“There is often a taboo around talking about wanting or liking sex if you are older, or disabled, or if you just don’t fit the ‘sexy’ stereotype in some way. And for a long time the depiction of men as users of sex toys has been seedy or perverted, and has prevented them from being able to have an honest dialogue, despite women talking openly about using toys for years. We want to start a conversation that acknowledges that everyone should be able to talk openly about what they want in bed. There are many people out there trying to fight that stigma alone and we hope that we can bring everyone together under the banner ‘Sex Not Stigma.'”

You can find out more about Pulse at the Hot Octopuss website, follow on Twitter and like on Facebook. Please take a moment to read my review of the new Pulse 2 Duo, and then click to buy the Solo or Duo at Hot Octopuss here.

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