Is Pubic Hair Sexy? Does It Matter What You Do With Your Pubes?

Is Pubic Hair Sexy? Does It Matter What You Do With Your Pubes?

Natural dark curls, silky blonde fur, neat tufts or barely there at all. Is pubic hair sexy? Does it matter what you do with your pubes? For women, pubes are the central topic of an ongoing fight between popular culture purported by glossy magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour and our innate right to do whatever we want with our own bodies.

Why Do We Have Pubes?

Is Pubic Hair Sexy? Does It Matter What You Do With Your Pubes?Why have we even got pubic hair in the first place? It’s a sign that we’ve been through puberty and reached adulthood, true; but for those who choose to remove any trace of pubic hair from their body it can be an endless source of frustration (and expensive waxing and other salon treatments). One school of thought suggests that pubic hair is the last remnant of an evolutionary phase where we required more hair covering our body to retain heat. Another idea is that pubic hair captures pheromones in the sexual region; sexually stimulating personal scents which increase our chances of attracting and mating with a sexual partner.

In the 21st century, we have other ways of keeping our bodies warm, whether that’s your partner, central heating or that super cute jumper you bought in the Next sale. As for smelling attractive, a soapy bath or a scrub down in the shower followed by anti-perspirant or deodorant usually ensures that we don’t repulse anyone within a mile radius.

We have come to depend on other methods of attraction than our natural pheromones, such as body language, verbal communication, flirting techniques and physical and psychological compatibility to find a sexual partner. Sex isn’t merely about reproduction either; it’s an enjoyable adult activity and as such there is no desperate drive to connect your sexual parts with someone else’s before the alarm on your biological clock goes off.

It’s Your Choice

With these thoughts in mind, it soon becomes clear that pubic hair for both men and women is more a personal choice these days rather than a natural bodily need. There are always extremes in perception of course, where porn is a case in point. Pornography offers a very narrow view of women’s, and to an arguably lesser extent, men’s bodies.

Bleached anal areas, completely (or at least mostly) waxed genital regions and surgically enhanced breasts and facial aspects make up the vast majority of female porn stars’ bodies, and male porn stars are pressured to keep up muscular appearances and a hairless, plucked and primped form as well. I can only think of a couple of exceptions. The ‘bear’ stereotype in gay porn, where an all over covering of hair is deemed attractive, or what’s known as hirsute porn, usually heterosexual and specialist, where women display hairy vulvas that 70s adult mags would have been proud of.

Pubes In Porn

How does the pornographic representation of pubic hair, or more precisely a lack of pubes, compare to the average person’s opinion? Speaking with friends both within the adult industry, other sex bloggers and product reviewers, industry contacts and the like, as well as people outside of this scene, the porn view of pubes doesn’t seem to represent the ideals of the masses. In fact the porn stereotypes of women’s (and men’s) bodies are often referred to in conversation and in popular media with humorous references, as though porn stars bodies are caricatures rather than any representation of ‘normal’ people.

I’m not in the habit of discussing pubic hair with my male friends but my discussions on a superficial and beauty level with women has left me with the distinct impression that women are tired of being told what to do with their bodies. We have to be the maximum of a size 10 with generously proportioned breasts, cellulite-free bottoms and thighs, wrinkle free faces, silver-free hair and flaring womanly hips that somehow magically fit into jeans made to fit an 8 year old boy.

Multi-million pound business stay afloat globally purely because women are pressured to adapt their bodies to fit within this narrow ideal. Diets, diet pills, anti-wrinkle creams, hair dyes, ‘sculpting’ underwear, anti-cellulite creams, botox, cosmetic surgery and of course, razors, sugaring treatments and waxing equipment for the purposes of removing unwanted body hair all contribute to these.

Other Body Hair

Interestingly, all the women I have spoken to agree that they do not want underarm hair. This is generally seen as an ‘all-off’ area, unless you’re some kind of ‘wild European lady’ who really just doesn’t care and probably enjoys things like camping, surviving by eating insects and washing in communal showers (oh the horror).

There’s much more diversity when it comes to hair on the vulva region downwards, covering around the labia and perineum. Only a few I have spoken to have expressed a preference for everything to be waxed or shaved off, leaving a ‘Hollywood’ or all bare skin surface. It’s noted that this is very difficult to maintain, by some; others just prefer to have some semblance of pubic hair with the common statement that they want to still ‘look like an adult’.

I guess this is why a ‘Brazilian’ is the most popular choice of female genital waxing, leaving a slender, neatly trimmed ‘landing strip’ of hair. I’ve never understood the appeal of a ‘landing strip’, personally. Each to their own, of course.

I still feel like an adult with or without my pubic hair. I definitely don’t subscribe to the school of thought that suggests a removal of all pubic hair is a somewhat Freudian desire to look like a child, and that this then suggests horrific things about anyone who finds you sexually attractive without pubic hair.

Pubic Hair Prefs

Then comes the issue of what motivates your preference in pubic hair. Do you choose your pubic hair style based on what you think looks and feels best? Are you influenced by any external media to choose a certain type of pubic hair ‘look’, despite what you may have gone with otherwise? Perhaps your pubic hair maintenance routine is more likely to be determined by your partner, who asks that you keep it bare, neatly trimmed, or natural, depending on their tastes?

I personally choose to keep bare from the neck down, with regards to body hair. Bare with regards to clothes would be nice but not really doable at all times. What I can’t quite decide is whether I would have chosen hairless genitalia as my personal body preference if not for common ‘women’s beauty’ media and stereotypes – or whether I would have desired a more natural look without that influence. I just know that I choose and prefer a bare look and feel (for myself) – and this is definitely for me, not for any partner whether male or female.

The Decision That’s Right For You

When it comes down to it, surely the best choice you can make is one as unaffected by external matters as possible. None of us are immune to the pressures of society, culture and media but as long as our decision comes from a careful reasoning in our own minds, then I believe whatever choice you make is best for you. Not allowing yourself to be dictated to about your pubic hair choices – or any other body issues – will surely lead you towards being a more confident person, whether you have your clothes on or not. Where being sexy is concerned, surely confidence is the most sexy and attractive feature of all.

 

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13 COMMENTS

  1. It’s a topic I’ve written about too, in my article

    • Hiya Katie, thank you so much for coming over and reading and sharing your thoughts too.
      I agree, it feels lovely for me too, and I must admit I prefer it this way on other women (I’m bisexual) but I wouldn’t ever pressure a woman to remove her pubic hair for me. It’s just an added bonus if it falls that way but I’d rather the person be happy in themselves.
      I need to look into the Lumea thing you’ve mentioned, I haven’t heard of that. I should get waxed more often but it’s the time out and the money, so I must admit I resort to the razor (albeit the comfy, lady things) more often than not.
      Thanks again 🙂
      Cara x

  2. I prefer trimmed short. For myself, I do feel like a child still if I am bare, and that bothers me, not to mention I hate the all-too-soon prickly feeling down there if I go bare. This decision has nothing to do with my partner, though I do prefer my partners to be shortly trimmed as well. Lack of hair is a turn-off, too short or newly grown is prickly, but too much is a distraction for my mouth. Taking a trimmer is easy to do to myself, I don’t get the ingrown hair or razor bumps, and my sex is still visible and not distracting for fingers (and hopefully not mouth).

    • hey Cammies. Thanks for coming over and for leaving your comment. It’s great you’re confident to do what you please and you and your partner are all happy with this! I think that’s what really counts. Again, thanks for reading and for leaving a comment too 🙂
      Cara
      x

  3. As a guy, I have to say I’m not really fussed. How a woman chooses to wear her hair is up to her. Smooth is nice, but there’s also something very feminine about a woman who keeps her pubic hair. My preference is for it to be neatly trimmed, as it makes it slightly easier when going down on her, but I wouldn’t force someone to change their style just to please me.

    As for my own, I tend to keep it trimmed short. Firstly because I appreciate that you girls are no more fond of nature’s dental-floss than we guys are, and secondly, it avoids the whole pubes caught under your foreskin ouchy thing. I like to keep my sac smooth though, it’s just so much more sensitive to the touch that way.

    HH

  4. I haven’t shaved my pubis in a long, long time. The hair there is just way too coarse and it itches like nothing else when it grows back. I think I prefer the trimmed look now, anyway. I do try to keep the bikini region shaved because I think it looks better on me, but I’m kind of lousy at always doing it. I also shave my labia majora, both for the smooth feeling when I touch myself and for the enjoyment of my Boyfriend when he goes down on me.

    As for him, I don’t expect him to shave, nor would I prefer the bare look. I like it when he’s neatly trimmed, though, and he shares that opinion.

  5. I ended up shaving it all, but only when I know I’m going to be having sex, because my hair (not just pubic but all of it) grows in very quickly keeping it maintained 24/7 would be a nightmare.

    I also love the feeling of shaved, hairless skin. Most people (of all genders) I know have the same opinion on pubes on their partners as I do – so long as it doesn’t get in your mouth a whole ton, or get caught on stuff, it’s a-ok.

    • Lol – makes sense! I do love the feeling of being smooth, and my female lovers being smooth. I don’t mind pubes so much on my male partner as I know he doesn’t like the feeling if they’re ‘all off’.

      ooh yeah – no on the flossing with pubes! 🙂

      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.

      – Cara

  6. Underarms and legs are a definitely no no for hair! There’s something about it that just makes me feel all dirty. Pubic hair – I usually just keep it trimmed short and shave the bikini line (can’t be having any on show!). Every once in a while I will get the urge to take it all off.

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