What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?

By Cara Sutra

What is bondage? Why does the world seem obsessed with it right now? What is it that makes bondage fucking sexy?

Bondage is an adult activity, when seen in the fetish and BDSM sense, whereby a person is restrained consensually for their own pleasure. There is usually a Dominant person or ‘Top’ in the scene to do the binding, although some bondage aficionados are skilled at self-bondage too.

There are various specific items you can use to restrain a person in bondage, which we will look at more closely later on.

Who Can Enjoy Bondage?

What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?Both men and women can be attracted to bondage, and people of all sexualities. You don’t have to be in a relationship to practice bondage, you can enjoy it with a person you trust. There doesn’t even have to be any sexual element to bondage. Many in the BDSM scene enjoy bondage and other kink activities on a psychological level which is separate from their sexual side.

When a person is in bondage, they are unable to move freely or as they wish. They are unable to defend themselves from the other person. They are also unable to stimulate themselves sexually. All these factors come into play during bondage sessions, and the teasing of both the psyche and the body during bondage is what makes it so attractive to its many fans the world over.

Bondage doesn’t just hold appeal for the one being bound. The one doing the binding – usually the Dominant partner – gets loads of pleasure from the session. Watching a consenting, bound partner (romantic or play) writhing in rope bondage, or a sleep sack, or even just in strong leather cuffs can be one of the most arousing scenes imaginable.

Take Bondage At Your Own Pace

An ideal first step into the world of kink and BDSM, bondage can be undertaken as tamely or as extreme as you feel comfortable with. We’ve all seen the furry handcuffs which are famed for appearances on stag and hen parties. Yeah, admittedly to act as the subject of jibes and mockery. A bit of suggestive fun. Sometimes, these furry handcuffs make it to the bedroom of an extra-rampant couple, a first step beyond vanilla (completely kink-free) sex.

Bondage Sex Toys

What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?For those who take the active decision to step beyond the realms of what the majority see as ‘normal’ sex and adult activities, there are still ways to ease in gently. Sex toy shops and adult retailers offer handcuffs which bring a superior comfort which the traditional metal based handcuffs do not afford the wearer. Leather, neoprene, silicone, suede etc. You can find wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs to suit your material preferences. There are also several fastening choices. Velcro is the popular choice for beginners, moving up through stages of quick release and trigger clips, to buckles which are lockable with padlocks if you desire.

There are also many pre-made harnesses, under bed restraint systems, kinky straitjackets and full body bondage suits available to purchase for those who want to get into their bondage session fast and with no fuss.

Rope Bondage

Rope bondage is a particularly beautiful form of bondage. Using rope really does make bondage fucking sexy. One strand (excuse the pun) of this highly desirable activity is Shibari, which is arguably an art form. Originating in Japan, the styles of knots and harnesses formed by the Shibari rope worker on their willing partner decorates the body, as well as providing a stable harness which can even be used to suspend a person when used with other suitable equipment. Perhaps more appealing to those who have moved on from the Boy Scouts or Girl Guides, you are really best off doing your research before attempting some Shibari bondage. Or find yourself a very patient partner who doesn’t mind you figuring it out as you go along!

Bondage Safety Tips

What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?It is advisable to only use items meant for binding someone, for your bondage sessions. Buy bondage sex toys! In the interests of safety you should not tie anything around someone’s neck, for instance – and if you are using rope then make sure you have some scissors close by in case a fast release is required. Grey ties have inexplicably (!) become very popular for bondage purposes; ensure you only use them around the wrists or ankles as they can become extra tight with the slip knots so many favour.

Talking of Fifty Shades of Grey, whether you’re a fan of the internationally bestselling trilogy or not, it’s best to clear away any knowledge of the books from your mind before you begin your bondage activities. Don’t think that your bondage session has to in any way mirror the somewhat lacklustre displays of Christian and Ana; bondage is really about what you make it. There doesn’t need to be a sexual element, as I have mentioned – but if there is, then bondage can be infinitely hotter than you could have ever dreamed.

What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy? Well…

Having sex while you or your partner is bound adds a wanton wriggle. It adds a raunchy, kinky element to the atmosphere. Of course you know there is consent. However, the wriggling against bonds triggers a carnal hunger and lust.

I have no hesitation about recommending bondage to everyone. Yep, I find bondage fucking sexy. Personally, I love being on both the binding and receiving end of bondage. Being placed into bondage doesn’t impact on whether you’re Dominant or submissive – it simply means you enjoy the sensation of being bound.

Over To You

If you have any questions, just comment below. Perhaps you’d like to know how you can incorporate bondage into your play times. And how to do it in a fun, safe and non-intimidating way. There is a lot to cover on the subject of bondage!  I look forward to writing many more in depth articles about this topic in the coming weeks.


What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?

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One Response to “What Makes Bondage Fucking Sexy?”

  1. dynamiteminx

    I love me some bondage. Rope is so completely wonderful. I have gone into sub space with rope alone! With cuffs, I love the smell of the leather but rope does it for me!

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