BDSM & FemDom Advice: Dressed to Domme – The Shiny Layers of FemDom Fashion

What’s the difference between the fetishwear materials?

Dress like a Domme, with this Fetish Fashion Guide

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A person passes you on the street. No big deal, right? Just an ordinary person, dressed in ordinary person clothes.

Imagine another scene. You’re walking down the street and you’re approached by a policeman. He stops you in your tracks. You have no idea why you’ve been stopped. You notice a marked change happening to you. You’re struggling to think what you might have done wrong. Why would this policeman, a person in authority, want to talk to you? Think. Think. Surely it’s a mistake.

Your heart is beating faster and faster. You feel hot but cold and clammy all at once and you’re not really sure why. You can barely think to open your mouth to reply to whatever question he just asked; in any case you know whatever reply you give will be words falling over each other and stuttering their way out into the air, catching in your throat with inexplicable nerves.

You can imagine it? Good.

That’s the role of fetishwear in BDSM. Even though the clothes you wear don’t change who you are inside or your Dominant or submissive character, what you wear has a definite and irrefutable effect on the people you interact with. Your clothes are the uniform you wear, the impression you give other people.

Many Dominants, despite agreeing that the clothes they wear are not intrinsic to their Dominant nature, find it fun and appealing to wear the traditional ‘uniform’ of their trade. That is to say, fetish clothing. For Female Dominants in particular, the effect that such fetish clothing has on owned or potential submissives holds a unique and addictive appeal.

Ask any Lifestyle Domme and she will likely confirm that she is able to Dominate her submissives and slaves whether she is wearing latex, leather, PVC… or pyjamas and fluffy slippers. The clothes maketh not the woman.  However, as we have already learned, clothing acts as our uniform to have a lasting and impacting effect on others.

With this in mind, what type of clothing would a Dominant woman traditionally be expected to be seen wearing if she wanted to make such a strong and yes, intimidating statement? What does a Domme or Mistress wear to either BDSM and Fetish events, kinky club visits or during a private session with a slave or submissive?

There is a wealth of different clothing styles and materials for the Dominant woman to choose from, to achieve the desired look. Let’s take a look at a few of them.

PVC

PVC is a shiny, easy to care for material which is comfortable to wear for long periods of time. It has some give in the material, to stretch over your body shape and curves, although it’s not a one size fits all type. As with all fetish clothing you don’t want it to be loose – so ensure you select the perfect fit for you and if possible, try on new PVC items before purchase.

PVC doesn’t need any pre-treatment or shining up, so it’s fantastic to wear at a moment’s notice. It will remain shiny as long as you store it carefully and look after your clothing. Storing PVC items directly next to each other or next to sharp objects may result in damage to the material.

You can choose from PVC corsets, trousers, skirts, lingerie plus a whole host more, which give you an immediate fetish appeal to all lucky enough to set eyes on you.

Latex

Latex clothing requires a little more time and attention. It is arguably the high maintenance material of the fetishwear world. Despite latex clothing being sold online or in stores with a dazzlingly high shine finish, you will need to use a shining spray in order to achieve this look yourself. Buffing up your chosen latex item with the shine spray before wear takes some time and not just a little elbow grease, so this is a task often given to a dutiful submissive.

There are many different levels of latex clothing quality, from budget friendly but low quality, to high cost but guaranteeing years of pleasurable use. The price generally reflects the quality of the latex used, but not always. As with all purchases it’s wise to do your research. Of course the ideal situation would be to see and feel the latex in person, in a store, at the point of purchase; for online purchases it is best to check the returns policy of the retailer just in case you have any issues upon receipt of the item.

Latex clothing is, or at least should be, skin tight and form fitting. However, it’s also very forgiving with the tight latex rubber helping to hold in any areas of personal worry. It’s best worn with an added layer of confidence; add boots, hold your head high and step out in Dominant, shiny style.

Leather

Leather is the Queen of fetishwear for Dominant women. You may own some clothing items made from leather already; this material isn’t the sole domain of deviants and dungeon dwellers.

There are different types of leather to choose from when it comes to your fetishwear. Some leather is very soft and flexible, making it perfect for close fitting, comfortable corsets, while other types are thicker and more rigid, making for durable and long lasting chastity devices and full body harnesses for your submissive.

Most people will wear an item made with leather at some point in their lives, whether just on their shoes or investing in an expensive leather jacket. For Dominant women, leather clothing can be in the form of corsets, skirts, floor sweeping fitted leather coats as well as waist cinchers, miniskirts, thigh boots and lots more.

Which Colour Do I Choose?

As you’ll probably have guessed by now, the traditional colour for all fetishwear is black. Most dungeons, fetish clubs and any BDSM location will see black as the colour that reigns supreme. It is the colour of the ‘dark side’, seriousness and fear. Black holds connotations of the midnight hours, where sordid, saucy and perverted activities can take place under the cover of darkness.

Over the years, traditional black has been joined in the BDSM and fetish realm by very bright red as a contrast. There is a strong connotation to blood with this colour, as well as pain. Although many Dominants choose not to draw blood during power exchange and corporal punishment sessions, the threat is always there. Under the striking from floggers, whips and even chains, the red stripes that appear are an echo of the visibility of red within fetish clothing and furnishings.

The subconscious effect on a submissive seeing a Dominant woman wearing black or black with red is notable. An instant knowledge that dangerous and/or perverted activities are associated with this woman leads to curiosity, intrigue and excitement; resulting, one hopes, in a desire to serve. The constant unspoken threat of punishment for stepping out of line keeps an almost tangible electric current of excitement in the atmosphere.

Generally, Dominant women do not appreciate being pigeon-holed. The requirement for freedom in the fetishwear area of the BDSM spectrum is of vital importance. Therefore, although black or black with red are still the most commonly seen colours for FemDom fashion, Dominant women can be found wearing whatever colours they wish.

Some of these colours hold connotations for any given ‘niche’ submissive scene. Baby pink, for instance, may be chosen to match with a sissy submissive or adult baby fetish play. White, on the other hand, is often chosen during medical fetish scenes. Green has seen a rise in popularity for latex and PVC wear due to military or interrogation type Dominant/submissive roleplay.

In summary, the style, colour and material of fetishwear does not automatically make the wearer any more Dominant or more of a Mistress. Simply putting on a uniform does not give you the facets of the required character. However, as a BDSM and fetish accessory, fetishwear is definitely a powerful tool in its own right.

Selecting the right fetishwear affects the mentality and actions of your chosen submissive or slave, as well as all others in your path. Wearing dramatic, beautiful fetishwear boosts your own confidence and assists you in  Dominating with pride and style.

Besides, what better reason to indulge in a little clothes shopping?

 

– Cara Sutra

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