What’s the best, large strap on for strap-on sex?

Hi Cara,

As you appear to be a bit of an expert in this department, I was wondering whether you could recommend a decent, large strap-on for pegging (or in my case being pegged)? At the moment I have a Fetish Fantasy Plus Size strap on which comes with a 7″ dildo, but I’d like something both longer (8-9″) and a bit thicker. I’ve had a look around and the options are fairly limited – have you used anything that might fit the bill?

Thanks,

Anon

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Dear Anon,

Thanks for your question!

You’re correct – I have used quite a few products relating to your question and I do love strap on play. In the past I would indulge in strap on ‘action’ with my submissives in the Fetish scene, as a Dominatrix, however these days I limit my strap on sex to my partners as more of an intimate, relationship bonding sexual experience.

I have two main styles of strap on harness, the Doc Johnson Vac U Lock and the Sportsheets Sedeux Strap on Harness. The Vac U Lock uses a plug which seals the compatible Vac U Lock dildos to it by way of a vacuum seal, while the Sportsheets harness uses an O ring, which keeps the compatible flare based dildos secure and snug to the front centre. Many other strap on harnesses also use this O ring style attachment method, the sizes of which vary.

From your question it would seem that you require the dildos rather than a new harness, so I assume you are happy with the harness type you have. The Fetish Fantasy Harness that you’ve mentioned uses an O ring style attachment. You will therefore need a flared base dildo to fit into this.

Fetish Fantasy Elite strap on sex harness compatible large dildo

The suction cup base of the Basix dildos means they are compatible with your O ring style harness. This dildo is in a realistic penis style with balls, which may or may not fit your needs. It’s certainly large! If you’d prefer non-phallic, how about a Fetish Fantasy Elite 10’’ Dildo? It’s presented in black so it has that classic, universal and also fetish feel appeal.

Doc Johnson Vac U Lock No 9 lucid dreams strap on sex harness kit set

If you did decide to try out a Vac U Lock harness and related dildos from the Doc Johnson range, I can vouch for the Lucid Dreams No 9 set. Although the dildo that the set comes with isn’t by any means the largest, it is non phallic, has ridges on the shaft and a dramatically angled tip which feels sublime whether used vaginally or anally, for him or her.

Of course once you own a Vac U Lock harness you open up the possibility of adding other Vac U Lock dildos to your collection, all of which will fit on to the Vac U Lock plug that you receive with the initial harness set. You can see a range of Vac U Lock harnesses and dildos here. The Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock 12.5 Inch Hung Dildo Attachment is a monster.

With regards to the O ring style harness which you have, simply shop around through popular sex toy retailers on the web and you will soon see a varied selection of dildos which you can use with this. For example there is the Toy Joy Captain Cock 9 Inch Dildo or the Si Novelties Extra Thick 9 Inch Solid Cock & Balls With Suction Cup.

Lovehoney strap on offer

Uber Kinky is also a great place to shop, as is Lovehoney. You can find all the Uber Kinky dildos here. You could even select a lifelike porn star dildo in your strap on harness with the humongous Omar Williams Realistic Vibrator finished with controller and suction cup if you wish!

A lot of the Uber Kinky range is directed at the more kinky end of the market, but the strap on harness and dildo area gives you a good idea of what’s available out there, no matter on which part of the spectrum you find yourself.

I hope you find suitable dildos for your next set of strap on sessions and that this has been of some help to you! Don’t forget the lubricant and I would advise always having a smaller dildo on hand – as things definitely feel bigger in the rear than they at first appear.

You may also be interested in this related post where I wrote a guide a while back about strap on sex harnesses and dildos.

Have fun!

– Cara Sutra

 

 

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