How To Feel Sexy And Boost Sexual Confidence

How To Feel Sexy And Boost Sexual Confidence

By Cara Sutra

In this post I answer a reader’s question about how to feel sexy and boost sexual confidence.

Q

Dear Cara,

I have struggled to feel sexy for quite a while and was wondering if you had any tips or advice for me please? 

Anon

how to feel sexy and boost sexual confidence

A

Thanks for your question. There are some quick tricks which work for me when I want to feel sexy and boost sexual confidence. Here’s my top 10 tips:

1. Have a bath or shower

Soak in the bath and let yourself unwind with a bullet vibrator and a fantasy, or take a waterproof sex toy with you into a cathartic hot shower. You will be surprised at how effective this is at raising your libido.

2. Take an erotic book to bed

It’s the main task of erotic writers to turn you on with their erotic books. Take advantage and get cosy with a passionate paperback for half an hour, or stick something kinky on the Kindle.

3. Wear matching underwear

A simple change from your old favourites can make all the difference. Swap the multi pack knickers for a matching sexy lingerie set and feel like a sex vixen all day long. This is a great one to boost sexual confidence.

4. Wear some sexy high heels

Lifting the muscles in your legs and adopting a different posture will incline your mood towards a more sexual outlook. Thrusting your chest and hips forwards and making the most of your feminine curves, high heels can be worn even indoors to give you a quick confidence and libido boost.

5. Paint your nails

Ready those talons. If you can afford it go for a manicure; if not, simply paint your nails at home. Making this small effort will result in a happier, more positive mood.

6. Get a new ‘do’

Either make an appointment at the hairdressers to change your style or have a trim, or just book yourself some me-time and try out new ways to style your hair.

7. Chat online

There are many friendly forums you can visit, or why not try social media. Join some new groups on Facebook or connect with similar people through hashtags on Twitter.

8. Send some flirty texts

If you have a partner, send them some flirty texts to get you both in the mood. If not, follow step 7 and find some friends you can send flirty text messages to. It’s a great way to boost your confidence and make you feel ultra sexy.

9. Sort out your wardrobe

Go through your clothes and set aside anything that makes you feel decidedly unsexy. You don’t have to throw them away or give them to charity. Just separating the wheat from the chaff will feel like the fresh start you need.

10. Bring out the wine!

Loosen up your body and mind and let those inhibitions drop. A glass of wine every now and then will give you some time off from judging yourself too harshly.


Hopefully these easy to incorporate tips will help you to feel sexy and boost sexual confidence in your love life. Everyone deserves to feel confident in every area of their life. Enjoy!

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