Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Elsewhere on the blog you can find tips on how to sex up your Christmas, but today I want to focus on an oft-forgotten area of a couple’s sex life – foreplay. Sex is so much better once you’re both properly in the mood, and with the 10 festive foreplay ideas I’m sharing here today you can gift yourselves a more exciting sex life this Christmas and through the years to come.

12 Days of Festive Romance: How Couples Can Sex Up Christmas

I’ve given some thought to how couples can sex up Christmas and enjoy unparalleled erotic intimacy through what can otherwise be a dark season. Light up your libido, hold on to your Santa hats and let’s get those erogenous zones tingling with my tasty tips for 12 days of festive romance!

Christmas Lingerie Gift Guide 2023

Christmas is full of sparkle and magic and feasting and twinkling lights in the darkness, with all the excitement the holidays bring. It’s no surprise that the holiday festivities get many of us into a passionate mood as well. That’s why romantic lingerie regularly features in sexy Christmas gift guides...

Sexy Christmas Gift Guide 2023

I know that finding the perfect gift for your beloved can feel like navigating a maze of tinsel, but fear not! I’m here to help you sleigh the gift-giving game and make this holiday season one for the books. Welcome to my Sexy Christmas Gift Guide 2023!

Christmas-Themed Sex Toys Guide: Candy Cane Dildos & Santa Vibrators

For sex toy fans it's always exciting to see what new products will be released for the festive season, whether for personal pleasure or to gift to someone special. I noticed that one of my favourite sex toy shops, Bondara, are offering a limited-edition range of Christmas-themed sex toys this year and just had to write a feature highlighting them...

Where To Buy Sexy Advent Calendars This Christmas

To keep the spark alive through the crisp December days, though, there’s nothing quite like sexy advent calendars. Read on to discover where to buy your sex toy advent calendar this year – or a kinky bondage themed advent calendar, if you prefer.

Sex Toy Storage Options: How To Store Adult Toys Discreetly

I know how easy it is to get hooked on adding exciting new sex toys to your collection regularly. Before you know it, your bedside drawer is too small to store all those wonderful vibrators & dildos. What other sex toy storage options are available? What’s the best way to store adult toys discreetly?

Cheap Sexy Gift Ideas: Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings

Enjoy my guide to edible underwear and candy love rings - plus other bedroom treats which you can exchange with your partner at any time of year as cheap sexy gifts. They are especially ideal as small romantic Christmas gifts though; sexy stocking fillers for an intimate festive moment. Or you could treat them for Valentine's Day or their birthday!

Halloween-Themed Sex Toys Guide

Welcome to my frighteningly orgasmic Halloween-Themed Sex Toys Guide! In this feature I’m going to showcase some truly scream-worthy vibrators, dildos, anal toys and more which are sure to go down a treat this Halloween –or any time of the year. If you’ve been looking for inspiration for a formidable sex toy for hair-raising personal pleasure, or an electrifying adult toy to share with your partner, you’re in the right place.

Sexiest Halloween Costumes Guide

Welcome to my Sexiest Halloween Costumes Guide! If you're struggling to decide between witchy, vampy or seductively feline dressing-up outfits for this spooky time of year, my saucy Halloween outfits 101 is here to help. Below you'll discover a showcase of some breathtakingly sexy Halloween costume ideas, at great prices & with discreet delivery from your favourite online adult retailers.

How To Have A Sexy Halloween

Sexing up seasonal events is just so much fun! Halloween is no exception thanks to the wicked fun and seductive costumes this time of year traditionally offers. Do you need some saucy Samhain inspiration? Then you’re in luck… read on to discover how to have a sexy Halloween – whether you're single or part of a couple.

Adult Halloween Party Games

For all those planning a Halloween party for their adult friends, I thought I’d ‘treat’ you to some of my favourite adult Halloween party games. These games are perfect for those who are a little older, but can be adapted for younger children to play too. Enjoy!

What Is Fisting? How To Fist Your Partner Safely

Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...

Ruined Orgasms: How To Ruin An Orgasm (& Why You’d Want To)

While orgasms are not the goal of sex with a partner, they’re often a highlight. Then there are all the orgasms enjoyed by people during solo pleasure sessions – masturbation. Why then, do some people pursue and enjoy a ruined orgasm? What are ruined orgasms? How do you ruin an orgasm, and why on earth would you want to?

Why I Love Locking Men’s Cocks In Chastity Cages

As the locked chastity continues, I enjoy every renewed realisation that they’re unable to have an erection or an orgasm. Of course, being a cruel and evil Bitch, I heighten the sub/slave’s torment with frequent teasing, whether by words, images or demanding that they perform in various perverted ways for me in person.

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.

Best Cheap Sex Toys When You’re On A Tight Budget

When shopping for adult pleasure products on a tight budget, it’s important to seek out items which are not just low-priced but the best quality at that price, too. With 14 years’ experience as a sex toy reviewer and sex blogger, I’m eager to share my insights with you. I want to help ensure you’re spending that hard-earned cash on the best cheap sex toys for you.

What Is A Violet Wand? History of Violet Wands & Kinky Uses

Violet wands are commonly used stimulation tools in the realm of BDSM & Electrosex. They provide a uniquely thrilling experience for those exploring kinky pleasure and consensual power exchange. Read on as I delve into the history of violet wands, explain what they are & how they work, and reveal their kinky uses.

Could Labiaplasty Fix Your Sex Life? Personal Experience of Vulva Surgery

What is labiaplasty? Labiaplasty is a form of vulva surgery by vaginoplasty surgeons which changes the size, shape and look of the labia majora and/or labia minora. This may be done for increased physical comfort, self-confidence or sexual enhancement reasons.
Experiment: I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months

I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months – And...

Are you wondering if silicone lubes can damage your silicone toys? If so, that doesn't surprise me. This rumour/myth remains prevalent in online sex toy shop product descriptions and various sexual health guides. What happens when silicone lube is used with silicone sex toys? Does silicone lube erode the silicone material? I wanted to prove once and for all what exactly does happen when silicone lubricant is used with a silicone sex toy – and not only used with, but left to soak for quite some time. So here it is! My experiment, where I left a silicone sex toy in silicone lube for 3 months…