Are sex toys better than real cock?

A look at the ongoing vibrator vs dick debate

VixSkin Mustang Royale Dildo cara sutra review-13 Are sex toys better than real cockMen, I find it very odd that some of you have a problem with sex toys. Not a hatred for rubber or silicone; but more specifically a feeling of angst when they are brought into the bedroom by your lover. There’s this ongoing debate: Are sex toys better than real cock?

What is it that is so intimidating about a moulded phallus made out of either a flexible material, or glass, or perhaps even inflatable? It could be the size. Maybe it is an underlying worry that your woman will prefer the toy, being seduced by its charming… ridges.

Many jokes abound in this world of liberal women, independent women, feminist women. Women who have felt their gender has been downtrodden and held back for centuries as the ‘inferior’ or weaker sex. Her indoors.

You may have heard some of them.

Why are vibrators better than men?

… Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.
… Because a vibrator doesn’t have an orgasm first and then just stop “vibrating.”
… Because a vibrator won’t ask you if it’s bigger than all other vibrators you’ve had.
… Because you don’t have to worry where else it’s been.
… Because vibrators don’t expect you to swallow.

And of course the biggie…

If vibrators had a wallet and could fetch the drinks, we wouldn’t need men anymore.

All of these and more, have been part of a rather successful attack launched on the male ego and the natural carnal source of their pride, their cock. Symbol of their masculinity, their manhood.

However, upon asking most women, they still do prefer the warmth, motion, throbbing and thrusting of a real cock. Men, you have no reason to worry, you still have the original and best!

So, are sex toys better than real cock?

The way I see it is, men have had their hand ‘on the side’ for years. This has been an accepted and ‘normal’ part of male life, relationships, sex etc as far back as we can see. Women have had to be grateful for any attention, sexually, from their man. Inbetween their wanking sessions!

Now, women have gained in this regard. We have sex toys as well as fingers. Female solo fun is no longer viewed as wrong, dirty, sinful. Men have a wank, well guess what? So do women. If you’re not there in the afternoon when I fancy an orgasm, I don’t have to wait to see if you will deign to ‘give it to me’ that night. I’ll have a rifle through my toy box then a rifle through… well you know.

It isn’t that men and women are ever going to be equal. Simply different. Not superior and inferior, merely having different interests, opinions and priorities in life. Men seem to focus on visual and physical sensations and pleasure. Women tend to require more mental stimulation and a scene setting, in order to gain maximum enjoyment in a sexual way.

I might not just want a huge hard dildo like the Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch ramming up me, I may wish to tease myself (or be teased) with a remote Lovehoney Dream Egg 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Love Egg. Or maybe read (or share) some erotic books to get into the mood. How about a sexy massage or a bubble bath with luxurious bubbles, a glass of wine and some blissful sensual candles?

When it comes to pleasure, we all get to our aim in different ways. It isn’t right for anyone to feel intimidated by the novelties we either share with our partners, or use alone, to reach our peaks, mentally or physically. They are additions to what should already be a meeting of minds, emotions, bodies.

Next time your lovely lady wishes to use one of her vibrators to climax, whether on her own in the afternoon, or after you have already shot your load, or perhaps introduces a shared toy like one of these vibrating cock rings into the bedroom… don’t be threatened.

Embrace this sign that she trusts you and wants you enough, to share ultimate pleasure with you. She wants to have sex with you, but at the same time is a sexually aware and confident woman not afraid to have her own set of demands, wants and needs. You wouldn’t want her keeping secrets!

Lads may wish to keep banging one out with their hand (or use something even better like the Tracey Cox Supersex Stroker). They may also wish to note that their lady may just be doing the same thing, same time, different place, with their own choice of sex toys.

And why not, men? Why not.

Women want it all! We deserve it all. Real cock when it’s ready, sex toys that are ‘ever’ ready.

So are sex toys better than real cock? No… just a different way to reach pleasure.

 

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8 Responses to “Are sex toys better than real cock?”

  1. C

    There is a third option: both at the same time.

    There are a number of different ways to incorporate toys into couple fun. My cock can't be my wife's pussy and my tongue on her clit at the same time. With the help of her seven speed bullet or her favorite dildo, she is able to get the best of both worlds.

    That said, favorite sex toy is the swing (once again, a bullet can add to the fun there as well).

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  2. Cara

    I agree, this is something we regularly ingulge in ourselves. However, many men out there still have a problem with even having sex toys in the bedroom at all. There is some psychological barrier they have towards other things pleasuring their lover, whether alone or together, even when those things are battery operated.

    Sex swing sounds wonderful!

    Keep enjoying my blog and many thanks for the comment 😀 xxx

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  3. oldoscar

    I think that having toys in the bedroom or wherever you may be is a wonderfull addition to a good sex life. Afterall doesn't pleasure come from pleasing,if my partner is truly pleasured than I know I will have the best orgasm.

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  4. TheCaraSutra

    That's a very good outlook to have 🙂 Nice to know that there are people out there still unselfish enough to think of their partner's pleasure above their own, and not to let cultural or other influences dampen their enthusiasm for sex toys in the bedroom.
    Thank you for following and for your comment!
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  5. Anonymous

    I have never had a problem with having toys in the bedroom (or anywhere else for that matter)

    My partner loves the feelings she has while I use our collection of toys and that drives me wild. And of course us guys can love some of those toys on our bodies when you girls decide to play!

    Toys enhance the fun and actually can take the pressure off the guy in some respects

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  6. Riordan

    As a man, I consider toys simple tools. No woman I’ve known carnally has responded to my use of toys in any way other than an increased desire for the genuine article. Dildos, vibrators, hands,tongue, and the like are fantastic ways to turn foreplay into a series of escalating plateaus until she begs to feel flesh and blood inside her. I might be more than enough without them, but well equipped with an orgasmic arsenal, I feel like a god by the time I’ve finished. It’s the height of foolishness to forego the ability to give immense pleasure in the name of egotistic delusions that a penis by itself is as good as it gets. I noticed one evening that my wife loves things that vibrate and that my hardon didn’t. Rather than lament the lack of capability, I went out and bought a device that makes it so. We’re tool using, learning critters. Why not in our love lives? I am American, so maybe I just love vulgarity at it’s finest.

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  8. Daywalker

    Both has its own basic feature but main motive or purpose is fun,romance,sex.so it is true real and artificial has little bit of difference but both is necessary due to so many situation.if cock is real then dildo is addition.in hot climax both has it’s own uses.ultmatey for sake of sex,everything is fair but originality has it’s own essence

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